There are a lot of reasons, according to therapists, as to why some women think this way. Pregnancy is supposed to be an enjoyable experience as most mothers would say. Even women who did not plan their pregnancy will tell you that keeping their baby was the best decision they have made and they could not imagine their life now if they did not become a mother.
However, some women do not think about pregnancy and motherhood this way. They feel that it is not in them to be a mother and giving up or abandoning their babies is the best choice.
With that, we will be looking into those reasons, as revealed to us by certified mental health specialists and therapists.
Adoption And Abortion Are Not Accepted In Their Society.
These women may not have the choice and the access to adoption and abortion, and they are pressured by what their peers might think, so they quietly leave their babies somewhere for another person to find.
The Mother Has HIV Or AIDS.
A new study shows that almost half of the abandoned babies are born with HIV or AIDS. It may be a reason why their mothers leave them.
They Lack Support From Their Families.
It might be because of their social status or their culture or religion, so they abandon their child. It might not be their choice, or it might be out of shame for their families will not accept them, so they leave their babies.
The Mothers Have No Home Of Their Own.
Some mothers think that they might be incapable of raising a child in a place where raising children is dangerous, or they might not have the sources to provide for their child.
They Are Not Financially Stable.
Unplanned pregnancy and raising a child can make a woman anxious and abandon their babies. They might not be ready financially and have no financial support but is too scared to reach out for adoption.
The Mothers Have Addiction Issues.
Women who are addicted to substances do not think clearly. They cannot decide properly and leave their children on the streets without realizing what they have done because they are drugged or drunk.
Teenage Pregnancy Is Unacceptable For Some.
Teenage pregnancies are very much frowned upon in society and to avoid the bullying and the anger of their family, they secretly carry their child and leave the baby somewhere after they give birth.
The Babies Have Appearance Or Mental Handicaps.
This may be deemed unreasonable, but some women will abandon their child because of a physical deformity, a mental handicap or even if they gave birth to a child of a certain gender they don’t want. Instead of accepting the child, they will abandon the baby because they don’t like what they see.
She Has No Desire To Become A Mother.
Some might think this way but still accept and love the child, but others don’t feel the love and the desire to have a child and be a mother, so they leave their child behind.
Postpartum Depression Is Also A Concern.
It is another reason for a mother to abandon her child, especially if they do not get the support they need. Sometimes, a woman might feel like they are not bonded with their baby, and it might have led to them feeling worse that then leads to them leaving their babies.
The Mother Is Not Ready.
This has been the highest cause of child abandonment around the world for some women are not ready for the responsibility of being a mother. They will state reasons as to why they are not ready and why they will freely give up their baby.
They Have An Abusive Partner.
A woman might be in an abusive relationship and don’t want her child to grow up in a situation like that. They will leave their baby and hope he or she gets a better life contrary to what she is living at the moment.
The Mothers Have Their Insecurities.
Some women think that they are not cut out to become a parent. They have no idea how to raise a child properly and to be the best mother for the child and end up abandoning the baby.
They Are In Denial Of Their Situation.
Some women cannot accept the fact that they are pregnant. They are scared of judgments from other people. That is why once they give birth, they have no idea what to do, and they will decide to abandon the baby.
The Mothers Have Mental Illnesses.
A woman who is not mentally stable will not think clearly and do things they would never do if they are mentally sane. They might also believe that since they are not mentally stable, they cannot raise their children properly. This leads to them abandoning their child.
All of these reasons sound surreal but are happening in real life. We know now that it is the lack of support and their mental state that hinders them from becoming a mother. The best way is always to show your loved ones the support they need, especially when they are going through pregnancy so will not end up abandoning their child, no matter their situation.