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How Not To Miss Your Curfew After Your First Date

Being a teenager opens a new array of things that you can now do without the supervision of your parents 24/7. This array includes going out on friendly dates. Some of you might still be too young to go on friendly dates and that’s okay. Don’t rebel against your parents for that reason because they are just protecting you.

If your parents are not that strict and you are old enough to go on friendly dates, make sure abide by the rules that your parents gave you. Don’t take advantage of them. Most likely, if you do, there won’t be any following dates. Having a curfew might be one of the rules that your parents would give you. It is reasonable to have that since you are still a teen. However, it might be hard for you to be mindful about the curfew since you are definitely excited for your first time. Nevertheless, you have to be a responsible teen.

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Here are some few tips on how you can be mindful about your curfew:

Put on some reminders.

Make sure to bring your smartphone with you so you can set an alarm at most every hour to remind you of your incoming curfew. Also, tell your date that you have a curfew so they would understand why you need to be mindful of the time. Don’t be shy to tell that. Both of you are still teens so it’s normal to still have curfews.

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Get a ride from your parent.

This is probably not a very appealing tip. But, it is better that your parent would meet your date so they would know if they will be comfortable with you going out with that person. If your mother or father is not that busy to give you a ride, especially if they offer you a ride, make sure to accept it. This can work in your favor that if they get stuck in heavy traffic to fetch you, then your curfew will be extended.

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Talk about the time beforehand.

Before you even go on the actual friendly date, make sure to talk to your date about the whole duration of the date. If you are just going to watch a movie, then determine how long would be the running time plus the transportation time. In that way, you can give an estimated time to your parents on how long you will be out. Also, they can adjust your curfew if they seem fit.

Get excited about your first friendly date. Still, be mindful of your curfew so you’ll have following dates.

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How To Make Teens Still Enjoy Time At Home

Teenagers can become distant to their family as soon as they found out how to have fun with their friends. They start to be more independent as soon as they become affiliated with people having the same interests and mindsets as they have. This might be worrisome for parents who want their teens to spend time with the family immediately after school.

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Despite these possibilities, parents can become proactive by preventing their teens to become distant. For families with this existing problem, it is still worth a try and it will never be too late.

Create a Trendy Bonding Time

It might be difficult for parents to keep up with the times, but being up-to-date might bring you closer to your teen. It is now easier to know what keeps their generation busy because of the massive information readily available on the internet.

You may want to learn how to play their favorite PlayStation game so they would feel that you are reaching out to them. You may also try to watch their favorite NBA team with them and try to relate the ongoing trends with their idols.

Reward Their Act of Kindness

Being up to date is not the only means to get their attention and care. For parents who might have teenagers doing household chores, or doing their homework on time, you can simply reward them with their favorite shirt or movie tickets. They will see also notice their positive deeds and not just their mistakes and shortcomings.

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Have One-on-One Moments

This method will eventually lead them to open up to you. Take the opportunity to become their confidant. Involve yourself with their personal issues until they become more comfortable doing so. If the problem is in the home itself, try being reactive and open minded.

Let Them Bring Friends

Furthermore, you might want to involve their friends with your family life. By inviting his or her circle to your home, you will not only get a chance to know the type of people he or she is being involved with. You will also have a chance to make them feel that whoever your children have become, they will always be welcomed by their parents. It will also be a healthy exercise for your children to open up to other people beyond the walls of their home.

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Of course, it will never be a one-size-fits-all guide for all families out there. The cure for making your teenagers enjoy their time at home still depends on the circumstances surrounding him or her. Make sure to keep an open mind and be less punitive. Share positive vibes around your house to motivate your teens to spend more time with the family.

 

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Why It’s Okay To Say “No” To Your Friends

So your friends are inviting you to try this newly-opened coffee shop downtown and hang out for a while because it’s a weekend. You are deciding whether you should come so you can unwind.. You really want to go but with the piles of homework and upcoming exams that you have next week, is it okay to say “no”?

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Wanting to be more accepted and valued by your friends is a normal part of being a teenager. You might have heard the term “peer pressure” being used a lot to better describe how your behavior as a teenager is shaped. Peer pressure is often associated with negative behaviors such as doing drugs and drinking alcohol. However, you can turn the pressure into a positive one. The secret lies with coping well with the pressure and getting the balance between being yourself and fitting in. This means: knowing your priorities, distinguishing the right from the wrong, choosing what’s best for you, and building a strong self-esteem to resist the influence that often comes with the pressure.

So is it okay to say “no”? The answer is a resounding YES. Here’s why,

You are the only one who really knows your priorities.  

We all live such busy lives. That’s what makes it challenging to do everything that we want to do. However, living your life will be determined by the choices you make every day. That’s why it is important to know what’s valuable to you and what will make you happy. Always make the wise decisions. Never waste your time on less important things.

If you are not sure about something and the idea makes you feel hesitant and/or uncomfortable, say “no” to it. No one should dictate you about what you should be doing and what not. You know yourself well. You are the only one who can do this for yourself.

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You are not obligated to do something for someone.

Sure, your seatmate let you borrow his notes because you were absent last week and you need to catch up. Your best friend helped you to run that errand yesterday because you couldn’t carry the huge box from your house to the other town. Nevertheless, you’re still not obligated to repay their good deeds by joining them to cut class and spend the rest of the day playing computer games or smoking. Good friends won’t force you to do things that they know will harm both of you.

You have the freedom to choose what’s right for you. Don’t allow others to make you feel bad or guilty for living the life that you deserve.

You can never control people’s opinion of you.

“What other people think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer

You do not need to be too concerned about what other people think of you. Moreover, you don’t have to try to please everyone, and/or beg for approval. Whatever you do, whatever you say, people will judge you. Whether fair or harsh, don’t sweat this small thing.

You are in-charge of yourself. 

If you got too drunk, got a throbbing headache and a hangover after last night’s wild party, or you’re sent to the guidance office for inappropriate behavior, will your peers stand by your side? Probably not. Just like you, they are too busy with themselves.

Deciding to do something and failing to follow through affects the people around you. Do not say “yes” to a lifetime commitment that you’re not really happy about. Because in the long run, you are the one to suffer. 

There is more to life than always saying “yes.”

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Life is too short to be wasted. But that doesn’t mean that you should try everything that life throws at you. There are things that are worth pursuing for. There are things that don’t really matter. You should know how to differentiate and prioritize.

In the end, it will always be your call. Start living the life that you want and deserve by realizing that it is actually okay to say “no”.

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How To Make The Best Out Of Your Curfew Hours

It can be frustrating at times to have a curfew set by your parents. It gives you a limit to the things that you can do on a daily basis. However, it gives you that additional skill to become more conscious of your time even as early as your teenage years.

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Restrictions in your time don’t mean that you have to lead a boring, less meaningful life. Here are some of the activities that you may do in order to efficiently utilize your time while having fun:

Hanging Out With Friends

Spending your time with your friends does not mean that you have to break rules and curfew limits. You just have to be with the right company in order to have fun responsibly. There are a lot of activities for your group that may provide you with maximum enjoyment, such as going on a restaurant hopping, initiating a spontaneous road trip, among others. You may also want to go to the nearest Karaoke Club to experience the relaxation that singing can provide.

Joining Daytime Community Activities

Having a night curfew means that you have to limit your involvement to some of the daytime activities in the community. Therefore, you may want to join voluntary cleaning projects with the local community government. You may also want to experience donating blood to the nearest blood bank. Going on a charity activity may also be an option provided that you love giving out voluntary work for those who are in need.

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Volunteering in Church and Religious Activities

Many of the daytime activities in the community are those that involve the local church. Some of these activities are charitable, while some are for youth development.

You may want to join the local chorale that performs their rehearsals during daytime. In addition, you may also be involved in the church’s local charity activities such as giving out free lunch to the elderly and distributing old books to the local public school children. No matter how limited your time can be with your local parish, you will always find a renewed sense of empathy and caring for your people.

Having Fun with Family

Spending your time before your curfew expires does not mean being away from home or spending it without the presence of those who imposed such regulations. Being with your family can be more meaningful when all of you have a smart sense of time..

You may want to spend time with your family by engaging in many outdoor and indoor activities with them. You may want to go to the nearest restaurant and have lunch together. You can also buy the latest indoor games such as the Cards Against Humanity and Jenga Blocks so all of you will have a meaningful and fun time together.

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Having a curfew at home does not mean having a less meaningful life for the rest of your teenage years. You just have to find the right balance of activities that will give you more connection with your peers, your family, and your immediate community. Curfew does not have to mean a negative thing in your life. It should serve as a challenge as to how you will have more fun and enjoyment without having to break any rules.

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